RELATIONSHIPS WE CHOOSE

I was just wondering whether we were given a choice to choose our parents or siblings. I could not find any firm conclusion to it, but almost 95% part of me believes in being gifted with them; rather than being given a choice.

At some or the other stage in life, we dislike our parents. We don’t really hate them, because hate indeed is a very huge word, but we dislike them. We all did. And that era of nonsense-striking-every-mind is the teenage period. Or as Katy Perry’s song goes ~ la la la Teenage drama~.

 

Siblings on the other hand are our twins with some year gap! If not really-actually twins! Anyway, we never ever get any hard feeling or any envious feeling for them, cause they are our closest and precious-est treasures. But taking some error in consideration, 5% end up hating their siblings too.

Friends can’t be included in this, because they are totally chosen by us. Here, ’Us’ includes: our ego, our feelings, our mind, and our heart.

 

So I don’t know if the choice ever existed, but then none of us dislike our own thing, or anything we chose for ourselves. So I guess God gifted us our parents and siblings. Aaah! I think I’ve justified my statements as such. But I know I’m creating an illusion by using words like gifted and dislike for the same aspect, but then the lord is never wrong! Hello! He is THE GOD! Like THE ALMIGHTY! And we, some-monkey-transformed-into-human, have to be unsatisfied with everything that comes our way. Be it our parents. So after all that we go through, some hard times and some teenage-drama, we land back on the correct path, just to realize that we have the BEST parents and the BEST siblings.

 

But, we still are left with some places to be filled in our lives. Like our soul-mate/lover/best friend and sister-or-brother from another mother! And these are the ones we choose. I almost wrote 250 words just to come to my point; about the siblings we were never gifted! Or the ones god forgot to give us. Or simply, the choice we were given.

As I mentioned in my last post, my best friends have that STATUS in my heart. But along with them, there is somebody else who isn’t really my best friend, or of my age, but still is an integral part of my sibling clan! Simmi/Samurai/Samaritee/ or anything-everything I call her, is my other little sister, I own! A neighbor, my sister’s best friend, a little kid who grew up in front of my eyes, a girl being transformed to a pretty lady, or from a rebellious, silent teenager to a loud, happy-go-lucky adult; I’ve seen all of her.

 

I thought of writing something for her on her birthday, but then her birthday shopping kept me busy! And now when she was furious; over some petty issues between a big sister and a kid sister; I thought of surprising her, like making up to her. Though she won’t be surprised totally, but it’ll do for a while. I guess!

 

So, Sim baby; I’m sorreee!! Lets Patch-up! Lets KISS and MAKE-UP! I love you, though not more than Shee (sorry!), but definitely not less than her too. J

DOSTEE FOREVER

Somebody smart once said: “When you’re small, the friends you make last big.” And as always I’m gonna take its stand too! We all have a lotta friends but in the end, there are very few, say one or two;  who will get up at 4 am, not whine, and rush to you only because you want to have an ice-cream! And me; being one of god’s prettiest (& modest!) special child OWNS more than 1 of those. We take each other for granted, we don’t talk for months, we see each other on yearly basis; but the warmth of our meeting lasts long!

 

As we grow up, and try to understand the complications of life, the trivial issues which transform from nothing to OMG! ; We realize almost every person likes to cover up. Girls in the MAC, LOREAL way and guys in the generalized way! Finding those, who aren’t really fond of faking, is a little difficult. In fact when you’re in School, it’s the time period of 8 to 2, which keeps us together. The moment we move out of the School, like bid adieu, we find out who is worth our nags; who makes an effort to call us; who takes the first step to meet; and who makes us grounded to the best time of our life, SCHOOL-DAYS.

 

Every phase of our life gives us gems. But like diamonds, best friends are hard to find. It’s not that you don’t find them, you do; but then you have to scan a hundred of them, test your trust on a lotta gems, scratch every stone to check whether it’s your diamond or not. I’ve had my share of scratching, testing, rubbing the stones to get my solitaires. And now, I’m more than glad to have them in my crown.

I’ve collected my diamonds, from all the sphere’s I’ve been in; weaved them in a necklace which dresses my heart. Jeees! I sound like a jewel freak now!!Eeeks!

 

Anyway! Everybody falls for their friend, at-least once; fights with them, keeps on killing them verbally, talk sexy with some, dream, and plan our life too. After our parents, it’s our best-friends who support us through the drama. I think, they are sent just to bring out the best in us, and love also! Again, I don’t know who wrote this, but it’s some smart ass for sure. It goes like:”When it hurts to look back, and you’re scared to look ahead, you can look beside you and your best friend will be there!” I’m in complete awe of it.

 

I’ll end this with one of my favorite forwards. ~ In the rhythm of life, sometimes we find ourselves out of tune. But when there are people like you to provide the melody, the music plays on! ~ **Dhulia, Khanna, Devyani, Komal, Genie, Reeta**; you are my extended family. Probably the siblings God forgot to give me! There’s nothing beyond you guys. There never was. There never will. :D